Well Hello!

Hi!! I cannot believe it’s been almost two months since I have sat to write a blog post. As much as I missed blogging and sharing some fun goodness with you all, I must say it was a much needed break. I promised myself once I finished my thesis and my last graduate class, that I would put my laptop away for a bit and just enjoy all my free time with my family or actually sleep :). And that is exactly what I did! I knew my blogging adventure would take a turn once I became a mom but I just wasn’t sure what that turn would look like. If it was something I wanted to continue or put to the side permanently. After giving it some thought and hearing from some of you, I am just not ready to be done blogging completely. I will not be publishing tons of content, or sharing every little detail, but I love the connections I have made through this creative platform of mine, and when I am able, continuing to share some goodness is something I want to do. I recently put together three new workout programs for some pretty awesome ladies and it was exactly what I needed to remind myself how much I love helping others in their health and fitness journey and just bringing some light to others 🙂 SO thank YOU for sticking with me and following My Goodness. It was really nice to hear from many of you throughout these last couple of months!! I have some fun ideas planned for the blog and inevitably will be sharing some things we are learning with being new parents and will continue my health and fitness posts.  I plan to blog when it fits in and it feels right. I really enjoy it and never want it to feel forced or stressful. So that is where I am at with my blog.

How about a quick little update on things over here? And by quick I mean extremely wordy, far too long, and poorly written. Here goes….

First up is of course, JoMarie! Ugh you guys I could write about this girl all day long, seriously. I will just worn you know I am an obsessed first time mom who thinks her little one is the coolest person on this earth. With that, I will always keep it real with you guys and will not just be posting about how amazing my daughter is 😉 this parenting thing can be tough work and that is no secret to me! I have some specific posts planned about our first 6 months together so I will not get too detailed now, but a little update won’t hurt. Who doesn’t love cute baby pictures on a Friday? Jo is the sweetest little girl and has absolutely changed my outlook on life. She brings a crazy amount of joy to us and Nick and I couldn’t be happier to be seeing the world through her bright blue eyes. She is pretty great and I feel very blessed to be her mama! She will be 6 months next week and I’m kind of dreading it to be honest. This last month she has just changed SO much and I would greatly appreciate it if time slowed down just a little bit. She got her second tooth this week and I would be lying if I said I was excited. My baby is growing so quickly and this is just a reminder to not take a second for granted. JoMarie is so very loved and I always remember this special time in our lives!

Next up, me! Oh gosh, hmmmmm. I’m doing well 🙂 Life is much less stressful now that I’m officially done with my Master’s program. THANK THE LORD! I really loved the classes I took throughout the last two years and I learned a ton. But having a newborn and trying to balance going back to work, starting a new position at work, a new baby, and school, while trying to keep up with seeing friends and family, it just kind of sucked to be honest and I couldn’t have done it without Nick’s consistent support and our amazing families help! I love having that off my plate and off my checklist. Not much else has changed with me other than becoming a Mom! I really do feel like this is what I am made for. I think everyone says this, but becoming a parent really does change you in ways you cannot understand until you are holding your baby in your arms.  I was hit with this new level of gratitude and contentment. I have been thrown some curveballs these last six months, some great curveballs and some unexpected not so great, but there is just a new calm in me now, a new grace and it all came from adding this little life to the world. Things have changed BIG time and our focus, perspective, and outlook has taken a shift and it feels good! Life is too darn short not to live it being your most happy self, whatever that looks like for you. I am currently reading “Present Before Perfect” and oh my gosh to anyone who is a people pleaser, tries to do it all, wears 498094383 hats, or just needs a good read, I highly suggest it. It is reminding me when I need it the most to be present in every situation you find yourself in, reminding me that it is okay to say “no” and how I will never regret doing what is best for myself and my family. It’s a great book and is helping me stay centered during this exciting time in our lives!

I’m back to work in a new position that I trained for, for the last two years and I am enjoying it! I am working out when it fits into my schedule, and when it doesn’t, it just doesn’t and that is okay. Getting use to my body after baby has been interesting but I’m learning to embrace the small improvements. I am still amazed with what our bodies are capable of. My outlook on eating right and working out hasn’t changed much. It is still important to me and I know if it’s important enough, I will find time for it. Working out continues to be such a stress reliever for me and sometimes it’s just best for everyone for mama to get her workout in. Overall, I’m doing well and really soaking up this stage!

Marriage! The question I probably get asked most from my girlfriends since having Jo is how Nick and I are doing. I do not know what exactly I pictured before, but Nick is really killing this new dad gig. I know how blessed I am to have such a hands on husband when it comes to parenting. I won’t get all mushy gushy on you but I will just say that it’s true when people say you fall in love all over again when you become parents and we have a bond stronger than ever. Has our marriage taken the back burner at times? Absolutely! We are learning to navigate through our routines with this new little sidekick along for the ride and there are times where every second we have together, is focused on JoMarie. She recently was sick for the first time and like all new parents I’m sure, it rocked both of us. We were both obsessed with getting her better and constantly checking in to see how she was doing or planning our next step to get her well. But even during those times, we are working as a team and I couldn’t do it without him. Let me be clear, there are absolutely those times of frustration or misunderstanding, we are human! We are doing the best we can and it seems to be working well for us and that’s all I can ask for.

Lastly, cannot forget our fur babies! They are doing very well with the baby. We try to still give them plenty of love and they have not acted out since bringing her home so that’s good. I do see a little jealousy with our Daisy girl but she is just requiring some extra cuddles right now which I try to give her when possible. They are reminded multiple times each day that puppy kisses are not needed on the babies face but they sneak them in sometimes. Guinness is always the first to hear JoMarie when she wakes up from her naps and Daisy is the first by her side when she’s crying.

WOW! Okay, I have to apologize, but I did warn you, wordy, long, and poorly written as promised. I hope you all have such a great weekend! It feels so good to jump back into my blog and as always, you can email me at mygoodnessblog@gmail.com with any questions or suggestions. I will say I do much better of a job updating my snapchat @JordynAshley and my Instagram @mygoodnessjordyn than I do my blog at the moment but that may change. Thanks for anyone who made it to the end of this post, you deserve a high five and a cup of coffee. For the love! CHEERS!

Baby Update:: 2 Months

Good Morning! I cannot believe we have a 2 month old already! I thought it was a good time to do a little blog update on how things are going 🙂 Life as a new mommy has been such an adventure and I really think I was put here to be JoMarie’s momma and love her with everything I have. When I was pregnant I would constantly think how things would be once our daughter was here with us. The reality is 20 times better than I ever imagined during those 9 months of carrying this sweet girl in my belly.

Maternity leave is going great and I literally get sick to my stomach thinking how close it is to ending. Nothing brings me to tears quicker these days than thinking of not spending my days with my girl, watching her grow and cuddling her. This bond is like no other and I get so emotional thinking of it changing at all. I just keep reminding myself that some of the strongest women in my life have left their babies in someones arms and gone back to work too, I can do this!! I am thankful for this time I have home with Jo and I try to make the most of every minute with her as I will obviously never get this time back. I have started journaling for JoMarie. I wanted something a little more personal, just for her, that she can read someday. There are specific things I want to remember and want her to know about this time in her life so I have started to write her letters in a journal. Some silly little things like how I sing a silly made up song to her every morning when she first wakes up and she gives me the biggest smile with her entire body that melts my heart every single time. Or how Nick would wake up in a panic every single night the first few weeks of her life, asking me “is she okay” as she was sound asleep in her rock n play. I’m also journaling some more personal things that I want her to know about this time. I started this because I often find myself experiencing things with Jo and I think “I wonder what this was like for my mom and I when I was a baby”.

As precious as life has become with becoming a mommy, it has been challenging as well. I always want to keep my blog content real with you guys! You see a lot of the perfect parents and flawless mom’s who make it all seem so simple and easy. It is so far from that in our house 😉 JoMarie is pretty cranky from 5:00-9:00 every single night and her two month check up confirmed she is colicky just like her mommy was. We have our times of feeling helpless and frustrated. The other day all at once, Jo spit up all over herself and straight down my shirt (my third shirt of the day). A couple minutes later she had a complete blow out, my doorbell rang, I was about 2 hours over due to pump, and my dogs were playing tug of war with one of Jo’s bath towels and I could hear it ripping.  It is not all glamorous and I think it’s so important to remember that and not compare ourselves to others “highlight reals” we see on social media. I absolutely share my cute photos of my baby girl smiling more than I share a picture of her screaming her lungs out (yes I have pictures of this as she’s still so stinking cute even when she is so mad) but that is never to hide that we struggle just like every other new parents do! But the struggle is all part of the beauty in parenting. We just do the best we can and love our baby unconditionally and that is enough!

I will say, I am obsessed with her you guys!! I know this is completely normal (at least I hope so) but sitting and just staring at your baby for hours isn’t just something people kid about, people actually do that, I do that! To say the least, I feel very blessed to be JoMarie’s mother and she is the best gift God has ever given Nick and I. She is growing like crazy and changes every single day. She is happy and healthy and that is all we have ever asked for. This little girl is surrounded by people who love her, near and far. Right now she is 11 lbs 13 oz and is 22.5 in long. The girl has a big brain 😉 as she’s in the 90th percentile for her head. JoMarie is a slobbering monster right now and loves to put her hands in her mouth. She has no interest in a pacifier and is very close to finding her thumb which we would be perfectly fine with! I think thumb suckers are so cute! She has a couple sounds she loves that will make her smile no matter what and I’ve only heard her giggle a few times in her sleep. Nick claims she has laughed for him when I was gone but the jury is still out on that one. She kicks kicks kicks her legs like crazy, enjoys bath time, and will have a stare down with any ceiling fan around. Her absolute favorite is being talked to and listening to conversations. I literally talk or sing to her all day long and she has started to coo right back to me. We have been lucky with her having her days and nights figured out since day 1. She wakes up once throughout the night to eat and goes straight back to sleep. With that, the girl doesn’t nap during the day. She is one of those 20 minute cat naps here and there 🙁 sorry daycare!!

Everyday is a new adventure with being first time parents and we are just living it one day at a time. I apologize for the many typos that this post probably has 🙂 it is late, my homework is done for the night, and it’s time to go get some shut eye before little miss wakes up for her next feeding. Thanks for stopping by!!

Welcome JoMarie!

Good Morning! On December 4th at 9:36pm our world took the best possible turn we could imagine as Nick and I welcomed our daughter, JoMarie Evelyn Elioff, into the world!

I have thought about what to say in this post for the last few days and finally decided words just cannot describe the love and happiness this little sweet girl has put in our hearts! The last almost three weeks have been spent staring at JoMarie’s little face, learning new things about her each day, playing with her dark dark hair and rubbing her oh so kissable, chubby cheeks.

My contractions started around 9:30 the morning of 12/4, which happened to be Jo’s due date. I had similar contractions the week prior, so I was not convinced this was the real thing. Nick and I went to church and did our normal Sunday grocery shopping, timing the contractions as we went. After we got home, I labored at home for awhile before the nurse line told us to head in around 1:00 or 1:30, I can’t remember exactly. Things progressed rather quickly and before we knew it, we were holding the most beautiful little girl we had ever seen! I’m excited to share more about JoMarie’s arrival with you all and some details on our first moments together, more to follow 🙂 For now, I’m going to continue snuggling this baby girl and enjoying this time with my little family. I hope you all have such a wonderful Christmas and Happy New Year!

Thank you all so much for the well wishes and love on Jo’s arrival!! Also, thank you for your patience with the blog and I will get around to answering all your emails soon!